Anonymous Online Dating, Explained

Anonymous, not secretive

Anonymous dating doesn't mean hiding who you are forever. It means controlling the order in which things are revealed. You start with what you want, what you enjoy and what you are like as a person. Your name, your face and your contact details come later, once there is trust on both sides.

Strictly speaking, most anonymous dating is pseudonymous: you have a consistent identity on the platform, just not one that points to your real life.

Details to keep out of your profile

• Your real name, or a nickname you use anywhere else online.
• Your employer, your job title, or your profession if it is rare.
• Your street, your neighbourhood or the gym you go to.
• Usernames or links to social media accounts.
• Your phone number or personal email address.
• Photos with recognisable backgrounds, such as your home, office or car.

Sharing photos without giving yourself away

1. Use photos that exist nowhere else. Pictures from social media or professional profiles can be found with a reverse image search in seconds.
2. Remove location data. Many phones store GPS coordinates inside photos. Switch off location in your phone's sharing options, or share a screenshot of the photo instead.
3. Check the background for anything identifying: post, uniforms, or a landmark visible from your window.
4. Keep face photos private and share them only with people you trust.

From anonymous to trusted

A comfortable progression looks like this: chat on the platform until the conversation flows naturally, open your private album to that person, have a short video call, and only then meet in a public place. Each step is a decision you make together, and you can stop at any point.

Anonymity on MilanVictoria

• Nickname profiles with no social media login.
• Your email address is never shown to other members.
• Private albums that open only for the members you approve.
• Approximate location instead of an exact distance.
• Members-only profiles that never appear in search engines.

For broader advice on staying private online and on your devices, read our safety and discretion guide.